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Evaluate Yourself if Your Spouse is Jealous
Be honest with Yourself You May be Part of the Problem
All a man's ways seem innocent to him, but motives are weighed by the LORD. (Proverbs 16:2)
This is adapted from Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity: Biblical Steps to Living without Fear. Feel free to print this study out and use it as a worksheet.
Are you married to someone who is jealous or insecure? If so, you may have heard repeated accusations that you flirt withor stare atothers. You may have defended yourself hundreds of times.
Pray for insight
You may have done nothing wrong to prompt your spouse's accusations, yet you may have contributed to the problem in ways you have not seen. Ask God to help you see clearly as you read this study, for if you are like most people, you will find it difficult to see yourself accurately. The Bible illustrates this problem when it says our hearts are deceitful.Am I suggesting that it's all your fault if you have a jealous husband or jealous wife? No. It's possible that your husband or wife has a serious problem with jealousy and insecurity and you should talk with your pastor or a biblical counselor. However, be sure to honestly evaluate your part. It's possible you helped create the problem.
The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? "I the LORD search the heart and examine the mind, to reward a man according to his conduct, according to what his deeds deserve." (Jeremiah 17:9-10)
Check each of the following that sometimes applies to you.
___ Do you do or say things to get a reaction?
___ Do you feel more desirable or attractive when your spouse is jealous?
___ Do you think it is cute when your mate is jealous?
___ Do you flirt with others?
___ Do you look at pornography?
___ Do you watch TV sitcoms or movies that highlight sexual innuendoes?
___ Do you stare at others?
___ Do you deny staring when your spouse confronts youeven though the accusation was true?
___ Do you make complimentary comments about others of the opposite sex?
___ Are you developing an emotional relationship with someone else?
___ Are you having an affair?
___ Do you emphasize physical attractiveness in your compliments?
Note: If you emphasize physical attractiveness in your compliments, your spouse may be insecure in your love, thinking you love him or her for physical reasons and not for his or her inner qualities. Your spouse may fear becoming less attractive and losing you.
Be honest with your spouse
If one or more of the above points applies to you, be honest with your spouse. Don't tell him or her, "You have a problem," or, "It's all in your head." Instead, tell the truth, ask for forgiveness, then go to work on making the changes you should make.
Have you been part of the problem? ___ Yes ___ No
If you checked "yes," write how you have contributed to your spouse's insecurity, and then write a plan to regain his or her trust.
- How I have contributed:
- My plan to regain trust:
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