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Part one – Everyday Conversation
1 Make a Habit of Talking Every Day
2 Talk about What Matters
3 Listen to Your Spouse
Part two – Difficult Conversations
4 Set the Stage for a Good Discussion
5 Discuss Difficult Topics as Friends
6 Overcome Obstacles to Communication
Small Group Leader’s Guide
Tips for Leaders
Step-by-Step Meeting Plan
God designed marriage to be a close, intimate relationship
God’s plan for marriage is for husband and wife to unite in the closest of human relationships. That’s why the Bible calls a married man and woman “one flesh.”
It’s impossible for a couple to experience the closeness God intends without ongoing, intimate communication.
Many married couples have bad communication patterns
Many couples rarely talk, or they only talk on a superficial level. Sometimes both live private lives, not sharing feelings, dreams, or fears. Problems remain unmentioned and unresolved. Conversations go little beyond “did anyone call?” and “what’s on TV tonight?” The couple slowly grows apart.
In some marriages, couples constantly argue. They have not learned how to discuss difficult topics with respect and love. They treat each other as enemies, not intimate friends.
Do any of the following statements sound familiar?
Although some of the following comments refer to the husband and some to the wife, each could apply equally to either spouse.
- My husband doesn’t talk. He just grunts.
- It turns into an argument every time we talk.
- My wife never stops talking. I don’t have a chance to say anything.
- We only talk about superficial things. I yearn for a meaningful conversation.
- Our house is like a morgue. The silence is awful.
- My husband says “I don’t care” when I ask his opinion.
- I never get her full attention. She’s always doing things while we talk.
- We only talk about problems. Who needs that? Isn’t life supposed to be fun?
If these comments sound familiar, don’t be discouraged
Doug Britton goes directly to the Bible to dig out its wisdom and apply it to the issues couples face today. As you learn and practice what God says about communication, you will see dramatic changes in your marriage.
Whatever your patterns, you will discover tools in Talking with Respect and Love will make your conversations more effective — and your marriage more intimate and satisfying.
In these pages, you will discover —
- How to replace silence with words that matter
- The secret of talking about anything without arguing or fighting
- What to do if you aren’t talking enough
- What to do if you are talking too much
- How to get conversations going — courteously
- Secrets of effective listening
- Secrets of effective speaking
- How to avoid interrupting, belittling, and misinterpreting
- Ways to bring up problems without wounding your spouse
This book is biblical, practical, and easy to read
“Make it personal” questions are scattered throughout Talking with Respect and Love to help you apply its Bible-based advice in your marriage. It is comprehensive, yet reader-friendly.
Memory verses invite action. Each chapter begins with a memory verse, since memorizing God’s word changes our hearts and helps us follow his ways.
It is ideal for individuals, couples, and small groups
You can read Talking with Respect and Love on your own, with your spouse, or in a small group. It is perfect for a six-week study.
Guidelines for small group leaders and discussion questions for each chapter are found at the back of the book. (Read more about using this book in a small group or church marriage ministry.)
This book is part of the “Marriage by the Book” series
You can study Talking with Respect and Love on its own. In addition, you may be interested in the other books in the “Marriage by the Book” series. Although these books bulid on each other, each book stands as a complete book by itself.
The eight books are —
- Laying a Solid Foundation
- Making Christ the Cornerstone
- Encouraging Your Spouse
- Extending Grace to Your Mate
- Talking with Respect and Love
- Improving Your Teamwork
- Putting Money in its Place
- Celebrating Intimacy and Romance