Summary: The Bible says to respect others—your spouse, boss, parents and others—even if they do not deserve respect or they have not earned respect. This online Christian Bible study shows Christians and others how to respect other people in spite of their faults, failures, sins and weaknesses.

Summary: Respect others even if they do not deserve respect or they have not earned respect.

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Respect Others — Even if They Haven’t Earned It

How to Respect People Who Don’t “Deserve” Respect

Doug Britton, MFT (tradução portuguesa por Susi Lins)

Picture of suspicious woman who has trouble respecting someone who has not earned her respect

Show proper respect to everyone. (1 Peter 2:17)

Introduction: It can be hard to respect others

I often hear one person say something along the lines of, “He (or she) hasn’t earned my respect.” Spouses often say this about each other. Parents say this about their teenage or adult children. Children say this about their parents. Most of us slip into this way of thinking when we talk about politicians.

It’s normal to feel this way, yet it isn’t the attitude God wants us to have. We can be aware of others’ faults, and there may be times when we need to discuss problems or confront sin, yet the Bible tells us that we need to maintain an attitude of respect for everybody.

May these guidelines, adapted from Chapter 5 of the book Encouraging Your Spouse, help you develop a godly, respectful attitude toward those around you.

 

Show respect because God commands it

A good starting point is to respect others because God said to. For example, we read in the Bible that husbands and wives are to respect their spouse:

… and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33)

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect … (1 Peter 3:7)

The same principle applies to other relationships. Peter wrote that we should show respect to everyone and honor the king, although the king in those days was an evil person (1 Peter 2:17).

 

Respect others because of their position

You can respect your spouse, boss, children, parents, and others because of their position. For example, after David killed Goliath, he became more popular than King Saul. Saul became jealous and determined to kill David, so David fled.

Saul gathered his army and chased David. On two different occasions, when Saul’’s army was pursuing David, David had the chance to kill Saul.

Most of us would say David had every right to kill Saul. After all, Saul was trying to kill him. Yet although he knew that Saul’’s actions did not deserve respect, David honored Saul as his king and refused to kill him. At his second opportunity to kill Saul, David said, “The LORD forbid that I should lay a hand on the LORD’’S anointed” (1 Samuel 26:11).

God wants you to respect others because of their position in your life.

 

Acknowledge that others have weaknesses

Everyone is imperfect. Be careful not to let their failures erode your respect for their good qualities.

 

Look for things that you can respect

You can find something to respect in anybody if you look hard enough.

 

Respect others as children of God

When with Christians, you are with God’’s children and should honor them accordingly—regardless of how they are acting. (Of course, when you are with non-Christians, respect is still necessary.)

 

Respect others as made in the image of God

The Bible says, “For in the image of God has God made man” (Genesis 9:6). Whether or not someone is a Christian, honor him or her as God’’s creation.

 

Honor others because God loves them

The Bible says, “This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins” (1 John 4:10). Do not dishonor someone God loves.

 

Respect others’ desire to be good people

Your husband, wife, parent, child, boss or employee may make foolish decisions. He or she may be lazy and forgetful. Yet chances are good he or she wants to be a good person and do the right thing. You can respect the desire of someone’s heart even if you are disappointed by his or her actions.

 

Honor others for their potential

See others as God does. Each of us has an amazing potential. Gideon was a fearful man, living hidden from the enemy, yet the angel of the Lord greeted him by saying, “The Lord is with you, mighty warrior” (Judges 6:12). The angel’s greeting was not because of anything Gideon had done, but because he knew how God planned to use Gideon.

 

Personal application

Who is someone you have had trouble respecting?

Which of these insights will help you treat him or her with more respect—even if he or she has not “earned” your respect?

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Unless otherwise noted, all Bible verses are from the 1984 New International Version.

Copyright © 2005, 2016 Doug Britton. (Permission granted to print for personal use.)

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